Guide to Planning a Bar & Bat Mitzvah Party on Long Island


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In the Jewish religion, this coming of age ceremony of a Bar or Bat Mitzvah party marks the point in a person's life where they are responsible for their own actions. Recognizing this as a very important celebration is not only crucially important to the young man or woman that the party is held for, but for their entire family and community as well. Whether you are the proud parents of the to-be-celebrated youth, or a party planner, consider the questions below as your guide in finding the perfect location for your upcoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah party:

  • Is there a specific geographic area you would like to restrict your search to?
  • Knowing what region you do or don't want your shower to be located in can easily help rule out several hundred catering halls. Of course the more specific your desired geographic area, the fewer options you have to work with. When it comes to geographic area of the Bar or Bat Mitzvah party, consider the following - the overall budget of all of your anticipated party attendees, whether or not there is a large number of anticipated attendees from one specific location, whether there is another location of sentimental value that should be considered. Since most Bar or Bat Mitzvah parties usually have a large number of attendees. The number one factor that may want to be considered is the location of the majority of the anticipated guests to make it easier for them to attend.

  • Is there a specific type of catering hall (i.e. hotel, vineyard, restaurant, etc.) you would like to restrict your search to?
  • Limiting your catering hall search to the type of catering hall is another way to quickly narrow down your top choices. Hotel ballrooms offer grand spaces that can hold a large number of guests, and can usually be designed in such a way to conceal the fact that it is merely a hotel ballroom.

  • What is the date of your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party?
  • This may be an obvious "to do", but it is nevertheless an important factor in selecting the perfect catering hall for your shower. Just like selecting airline tickets, the more flexible you are the more likely it is to get better rates, options and availability. Of course, as the party planner, you should try to arrange a date for the party as close to the date of the guest of honor's actual birthday as possible.

  • How formal an affair do you want your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party to be?
  • The level of formality of your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party doesn't necessarily equate to the level of pricing of the catering hall. Instead, it can help you to select an appropriate type of hall if given the choice. If you were hoping for a more laid back affair, then perhaps a formal hotel ballroom isn't the perfect catering hall for you, despite the large number of people it can hold. Perhaps an outdoor space with a lovely garden would better suit your needs and desires.

  • Is there a specific theme you would like to portray?
  • Selecting a theme for your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party could really enhance the overall experience for the guest(s) of honor as well as for everyone else. Perhaps you could incorporate understated elements of the guest of honor's personality and/or likes, such as colors, or glitter. Since Bar or Bat Mitzvah parties are of a religious nature, however, you may not want to go overboard on selecting a heavy theme for the party. Instead, guests should focus on the reason why they are celebrating the guest of honor.

  • How many people will you be hosting at the Bar or Bat Mitzvah party?
  • The number of anticipated guests will undoubtedly help limit your catering hall choices, especially if it's a large number. Depending on your budget, this could be the determining factor of where your event should be located at. If you are expecting a large number of attendees, perhaps the Bar or Bat Mitzvah party would work out best if held in a hotel.

  • Will you be requiring onsite food catering?
  • Most of the catering halls we showcase on our website include food catering. However, some do not and will require additional cost and planning in order to provide quality food for your guests.

  • How much do you expect to spend on food/beverages?
  • As alluded to earlier, this is an important consideration, and could be the deciding factor on which catering hall to go with. Depending on your budget, you can decide to offer drinks and/or bar service, food stations and hors d'oeuvres. One way to cut costs a bit is to choose a catering hall that allows for buffet lines, rather than table service.

  • Will you be requiring a Kosher, Vegetarian or Vegan menus?
  • Many catering halls do offer Kosher, Vegetarian or Vegan menus. If this is a must for your event, make sure your catering hall choice has this option.

  • Will you be requiring a full service bar or food stations/carving?
  • Most catering halls (especially hotels and large halls) will offer this service in a customized party package. If the catering hall of your choice does not offer this service in a package be sure to inquire about the additional costs and how it may or may not affect the overall scheduling of your event. If you decide to offer full bar service to your guests, it might be a good idea to discuss how the bartender can identify who is of legal age to drink.

  • Will you be requiring a catering hall that provides party favors?
  • Perhaps not surprisingly, these days many formal catering halls automatically offer you a selection of party favors to choose from in order to streamline your party planning. Many of these packages, however, are catered to wedding parties so the style of party favors may not match a Bar or Bat Mitzvah party needs.

  • Would you prefer a location with attached or nearby accommodations for out of town guests?
  • If your answer to this question is yes, then you should highly consider hotels as your choice of catering hall. However, pay special attention to non hotel catering halls that are in close proximity to other hotel accommodations. Most halls should have this information ready at hand.

  • Will you be requiring a party planner?
  • If you book your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party at an established catering hall, chances are you will be provided with an in-house party planner that can help ensure that your event goes smoothly. If you are not provided with one, but you are still interested in having a party planner, keep in mind that Long Island party planners have a wide range of rates, involvement and expertise. The catering hall of your choice could also assist you in finding a party planner who has been involved with past events at that location.

  • Would simultaneous events at your location be acceptable?
  • This is an important, yet often overlooked, factor to keep in mind when booking your Bar or Bat Mitzvah party. You may not want to compete with a neighboring party that will also have loud, and perhaps clashing, music. On the other hand, catering halls that offer simultaneous events could help keep your costs low and could even fuel the party spirit.


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